Sorry its been awhile. There are some crazy, unexpected, exciting things happening in my life right now. While I won’t share all the gory details with you just yet, I will tell you that I have been feeling so overwhelmingly full of peace; for the most part, of course. Don’t worry mom, I still understand that life is a roller coaster, and eventually I’ll roll over the peak and come flying down; but for now I’m on my way up. And the view is great.
What’s my secret? I finally started to do what we’re told to do all the time. “Let it go.” I finally learned how to let go. And I’m not talking “yeah I don’t care about that anymore,” while it secretly haunts you every night before bed. I mean really, truly, 100% letting things go. I’m serious people, this works! I’ve always thought, growing up, that I had a fairly decent grasp on how to let go of things, but I have recently taken it to a whole new level. And let me tell you, it is so freeing.
But how? Let’s start small.
You cannot.. You WILL NOT change your life overnight. Or in a day for that matter. Or a week, month, or even a year. This is because, as much as we like to think so, us as humans do not go from A to B. Life is constantly changing every single day. We are constantly faced with new obstacles and new opportunities. It is through embracing these changes and letting go of the things we cannot control that we will find peace. I know, I’m rambling. Let’s get to the point.
I personally started with my prayer life, because that is something important to me. I could dedicate an entire post to this (which I might), but long story short, I stopped asking God to give me things that I want, and started asking simply for guidance. I let go of my wants. This alone made such a huge impact on my attitude everyday, and all I did was change a few words. Start small.
Next, I started letting go of negativity. You always hear to delete the negativity, but this has always been hard for me growing up. I worry too much about what others might think of me. You might agree, you might be thinking “it’s just not that easy!” But yes. It really is that easy. I spent the first month or so of this semester stressed, confused, and just overall very unhappy. I wasn’t sure what to do. I didn’t know how to change it. I finally decided, however, that something needed to change. So I took baby steps. I started by scheduling an appointment with my advisor to simply discuss some options for my next step. See? Not hard. That took maybe thirty whole minutes of my life, and nothing drastic occurred. I also felt so relieved after. Baby steps.
I discovered that is what works for me, so I began to find things that make me miserable, and making them go away. Another example is a job that I got at the beginning of the school year. I was there for maybe a month and it stressed me out like no other. Typically, I am not a quitter, and I would stick with a job just because I fear what other people might think of me if I leave. Not this time. But I needed the money right? So I reached out to about four other jobs, not even knowing if they were hiring, and within a week I had a new job. One that I am actually very passionate about.
This is the same with toxic relationships as well. I am fortunate enough to say that I have not had to get rid of any people lately, but there have been times in my life where stepping away from certain friendships have been necessary.
I could go on for days, but for everyone’s sake, I will leave you with this: if you are unhappy with your life, work your butt off to change it. And for the things that you cannot change, learn to accept them. It is hard, and it is scary, but once you learn how to do it everything becomes a whole lot easier. Life is too short to be miserable. Find peace by letting go. I am the happiest I’ve been in a long time because of it.
“One if the most courageous decisions you’ll ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting your heart and soul” -Brigitte Nicole